Robert Jackman 

So often when our loved ones pass away we mourn their loss and depending upon our faith or belief of what happens when we die, we each grieve the loss differently.

Often it is easier to avoid than to do something that we need to do. We’ve all played this game with ourselves of putting off those things that really need to get done and then at the last minute finally completing this task.

There’s an expression within the therapy community related to couples coming into therapy six years too late. In general, couples tend to procrastinate, deal with , ignore, deny and generally stall from doing anything about their marital problems until they are in an all-out crisis mode. When they come into my office I can just feel the anger, fear and volatility in the room as they take their chairs and settle in.

Is there a book inside of you that you read over and over? Is there a story that you tell yourself that this is who you are and who you will always be?

A great way to immediately get some feelings out and to connect to what you are feeling is to write things down. When I am working with people and they are having a hard time expressing what they are feeling a lot of times this means that they need to connect deeper to the feeling so they can understand themselves better. So I have them get out blank sheets of paper and write what I call a symbolic letter to someone they know, or someone distant whom they have never met.