ACA MEMBER BLOGS

If you work with couples, non-monogamous relationships, are in a relationship, want to be in a relationship, or are recovering (and reflecting) on what went wrong from a recent break-up, then this is a good place to be.

I had a parent who cancelled services for a client and I must say that I was very concerned. I wasn’t concerned because of pride – because services were cancelled with me, specifically – or because the parent just didn’t want services, it was because I recognized that the client would not get the help that they needed.

Many people come into sex therapy because they are struggling to find sexual desire in their lives. Many also struggle with finding motivation to take steps to discover, or rediscover what increased sexual desire is in their own lives. They see the sexual world around them, and see how other people connect.

This week’s blog is inspired by the news in my area of Texas. In my social media stream this morning I saw a video from the Dallas NBC affiliate covering a woman, who is a librarian; working with what the video states is “over 400 children” each day, going to a business to “blow off steam.”

So in previous posts I have discussed the importance of one on one quality time with your child. Quality time meaning no interruptions via TV, Ipads, Iphones, video games, and other technological distractions. In this post I will discuss my past Sunday cooking spinach lasagna with my 5 year-old daughter and adding some risk taking to the recipe.

You and I both know what I’m talking about here. We can either recognize it within ourselves or we can see it pretty clearly when we’re working with clients. It’s when people put their reactions/feelings/problems onto another person without a) reflecting on their own role in the situation, and b) reflecting on the notion that how the other person showed up is highly likely reflective of them (and not you).

In all therapy, “I Don’t Know” is a difficult answer to work through. At the same time, it’s a common answer of many clients who struggle to understand their own motivation.

The change has been gradual but it has come. The days when I was in Sunday School were filled with missives about doing unto others as you would have done unto you, about turning the other cheek and of sharing love, belongings and shelter to those in need.

The strategy for this week invites you to actually fail! Often we create extra stress and pressure in our lives by believing we simply cannot experience failure. Keep in mind that “experience failure” and BEING a failure are two very different things. It might help if you remember when and how you learned your greatest lesson.

I have never considered becoming an approved clinical supervisor until working on my postgraduate clinical hours. I have recognized the importance of supervision to our profession from the experiences I have gained through internship and postgraduate work.